Family Mediation Week runs at the end of January (27 to 31 January 2025). The annual event seeks to raise awareness of family mediation and the advantages it can bring to separating families.

The Family Mediation Council’s (FMC) aim is to let more people know about the benefits of family mediation and encourage separating couples to think about family mediation as a way of helping them take control, make decisions together and build a positive future for their family.

Mediation is a great tool to use in family law disputes. It can help separating couples reach an agreement on various issues, including arrangements for their children, property and finances without huge legal fees or a lengthy court battle.

However, the right mindset is crucial to get the most out of the process.

In this blog, our experienced Family Law solicitors in Blackheath give their top tips for effective mediation in family disputes.

  1. Believe in the process.

Mediation offers various advantages over litigation. Fighting an ex-partner in court is stressful for everyone concerned and can be time consuming, traumatic, and expensive.

Family mediation focuses on a collaborative approach by encouraging parties to work together, but it only works if everyone involved commits to the process.

It takes most couples two to four mediation sessions to agree on arrangements for their children, and an average of five sessions to reach an agreement about their finances. Even if the first session is difficult, keep an open mind and stick with it.

  1. Be respectful.

It can be extremely difficult to talk to an ex-partner, particularly if the relationship ended badly.

However, being dismissive or defensive is not conducive to open discussions that will result in agreement.

Language matters. Be open and considerate in the way you communicate and try to leave any residual issues you might have at the door.

  1. Be flexible.

One of the main benefits of mediation in family law disputes is that separating couples retain control over the decision-making process rather than surrendering it to the courts.

In family mediation, it is for a couple to decide how best to do things, based on what works for them.

However, mediation is only effective if couples are willing to compromise. Listen to the points made by your ex-partner, try to understand their perspective, and be prepared to be flexible in your response.

  1. Choose the right mediator.

Mediators come in all different shapes and sizes and have different styles and areas of expertise.

When choosing a mediator, it helps to consider their background, experience and specialisms, to ensure you get the right fit.

Many mediators meet clients online, but if you prefer to undertake sessions face to face, you should also bear in mind practical considerations like where they are based.

Click here to search the FMC’s Register to find a family mediator who practises near you.

  1. Focus on the future.

Moving on after the breakdown of a relationship can be difficult. However, it is important to try not to dwell on the past and instead concentrate on moving forwards.

Try to go into each mediation session focusing on what you want to get out of it. Arrangements for your family that are agreed on through mediation will provide a firm foundation for your future.

Family Law Solicitors Blackheath 

Mediation can help separating couples resolve many issues arising out of their break-up and is one of the most effective ways to reach agreement.

At Beverley Morris & Co., we can advise on all family law matters including divorce, children and financial disputes, helping couples decide on the best way to proceed.

We understand the sensitivity of family law matters and offer a personal and practical approach. Our experienced family law solicitors will ensure that you are provided with caring, confidential advice, tailored to your unique legal matter.

Our Head of Family Law is Quang Huynh, who joined Beverley Morris & Co. at the end of last year.

Quang is a member of Resolution, an organisation comprising family lawyers and other professionals committed to the constructive resolution of family disputes, and follows Resolution’s Code of Practice that promotes a non-confrontational approach to family problems.

For more information, or to speak to one of the team, call 020 8852 4433 or email enquiries@beverleymorris.co.uk.

Alternatively, click here to arrange a call back.